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💫 stop holding (ourselves) back on ambition and personal growth

💫 define, build and own a meaningful legacy

💫 make the impact we’re meant to make

On our terms. Without fuss. And without selling souls.

OPEN the STUDIO DOOR

What if the most exhausting thing you do every day is something you…

💫 never signed up for

💫 never put on your to-do list

💫 never included in any quarterly or annual plan

A third of 2025 is already behind us.

And for most of us, the Code Switching Tax has been running quietly in the background the entire time. Never budgeted, tracked, or acknowledged on any plan. Just paid. Repeatedly. Often daily.

This week we go deeper into The Switching Tax series, one tax at a time. Today's focus is the one that costs the most and shows up the least in professional conversations.

The Code Switching Tax.

You've likely been paying it for years. In rooms that required a different version of you. With people who needed you to be legible on their terms before they'd take you seriously on yours.

• WARM UP - 1 QUESTION to ask yourself about which rooms have been costing you the most
• POSTED NOTES - 1 QUOTE to reframe what it means to cover who you are
• THE STUDIO FLOOR - 3 ROOMS that taught me the real cost of the Code Switching Tax

The studio is open. Let's begin.

WARM UP

Before we dive into today's work, let's warm up.

Which room in your professional (or personal) life has required the most from you - not in skill or effort, but in self?

The room that comes to mind first is probably the one that's been charging you the longest.

POSTED NOTES

💫 This week's concept:

Yoshino's work centers on how we modulate who we are to become acceptable to the spaces we inhabit. Not hiding - covering. More subtle, and more insidious.

For creative professionals operating across cultures, industries, and power structures, this isn't abstract theory. It's Thursday morning. It's the meeting you've been preparing for - the content, AND the version of yourself you're must to perform.

And if we think this is just about creative professionals, we need to think again. This happens to people in all professions, and it happens based on gender, age, accent, you name it.

What are you covering, and for whom?

THE MARQUEE

RECOMMENDING - Kenji Yoshino's Big Think video, Diversity Does Not Mean Having to Choose Between Identity and Inclusion, unpacks the difference between hiding and covering who you are.

THE STUDIO FLOOR

I have paid the Code Switching Tax for years. Three very different rooms showed me what it was.

I want to tell you about all three, because each one taught me something different about what this tax actually costs. I learned how it can be a strategic spend, and how it can be a depleting expense.

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The first “room” was a manufacturing plant, a place where I started my professional career.

As a young engineer, I brought energy, creative problem solving, and a desire to do good work to the table. I didn’t have experience and lessons from the school of hard knocks.

To get what I needed, the institutional knowledge held by people who had no particular reason to share it with me, I adapted. The culture was entrenched, and the dynamics were clear. And so I learned to move within them.

It started as survival. Over time, as I gained confidence, my code switching became a strategic compromise. I found small footholds, the moments where my work spoke for itself, or where a gesture created genuine connection across a wide cultural gap.

Those small victories mattered. But I always felt the weight of the translation.

The second “room” was a leadership culture.

The norm was aggressive action. Brutal honesty. Dominance dressed as directness. The implicit message was clear - to be considered successful here, you will need to become this.

I tried. I genuinely tried to make it work.

But I kept running into the same wall. My style is direct, collaborative, empathy-driven. Not because I lack conviction, because I believe that's how you build something that lasts. No amount of cultural pressure was going to make me trade that in for a version of leadership I didn't believe in and didn't want to become.

So I left. On my terms.

It felt like a significant cost at the time. A professional moment that didn't resolve the way I had hoped. But I knew, with surprising clarity, that staying in the situation would have cost me something I couldn't get back.

Not a title. Not a salary. Me.

The third “room” was an artistic collaboration.

I walked in with years of experience as a teacher, performer, choreographer, and a practitioner of a demanding classical art form. But because I wasn't widely known in that particular space, I was read as “junior.” As "only" a teacher.

The room decided who I was before I opened my mouth. Or showed my work.

So I did something that didn't come naturally and felt unnecessary. I performed authority rather than earning trust through collaboration. Pitched myself. Asserted my credentials in a register that wasn't mine.

Professionally, in that situation, it worked.

But I felt the gap between how I was showing up and how I actually like to work. I didn't lose my values. I didn't compromise my integrity. But I felt the distance.

I didn’t always understand that distance has a name. Code Switching.

Three rooms. Three versions of the same demand. Become legible to this space. Perform the version of yourself that will be taken seriously here.

And three different outcomes

💫 strategic compromise and small victories

💫 refusal and exit

💫 tactical adaptation with values intact

Looking across all three, I now understand the Code Switching Tax is real. In a world where rooms are not built equally for everyone, some of it is the cost of operating across different cultures and power structures. Pretending otherwise cultivates deception.

But there is a line.

The line encompasses your values and your identity. The non-negotiable core of who you are and how you want to move through the world.

On one side of that line - switching that costs you energy, requires recovery, and demands recalibration. It is manageable, sometimes generative.

On the other side - switching that costs you yourself. Piece by piece, compromise by compromise. It all seems fine, even inexpensive, until you look up one day and don't recognize the person performing in all those rooms (or the person in the mirror).

The difference between the three rooms wasn't the culture I walked into. It was whether I knew where my line was. And whether I was willing to hold it.

The Code Switching Tax will find you. It already has. The question lies in what you're willing to let it cost.

Do you recognize part of your story in any of these three rooms?

COOL DOWN

A third of the year is behind us.

You've already paid this tax more times than you can count, in rooms that asked you to show up as someone slightly different than who you actually are.

The question for the next eight months isn't whether you'll pay it again. You will. We all will.

The question is whether you'll pay it consciously, knowing where your line is and what you're willing to let it cost.

To COOL DOWN today - can you take 30 seconds to hit REPLY and tell me which room resonated most? Or name your own room. I'd genuinely love to hear it.

Warmly,
Suchi

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